Don't Act Weird Around Me

I just want to make one thing clear.  I AM NOT AFRAID OF TELLING PEOPLE ABOUT MRKH.   If I'm being honest...I have a lot of really great family and friends who love me for me, regardless of what body parts I am missing.  I couldn't care less about what the rest of the world thinks. I love my life, and I am totally comfortable in my own skin. The only thing that has prevented me from telling the world about MRKH is how people act around me. I LOVE watching other people in uncomfortable situations just as much as the next person, ( I think this is why I love reality shows, embarrassing my husband, and button pushing just a little too much) I just don't really enjoy being in them myself. I just don't want other people to feel like they need to edit what they say in front of me just because I don't have a uterus.  I don't edit what I say in front of you because you do have one. Plus, how are you supposed to know? Its not like I wear a shirt that says "I don't have a uterus"...although how funny would that be? Talk about a possible uncomfortable situation.  Here are some examples of what I am talking about. 

I found out I could not have children just before my 16th birthday.  When I was almost 18 a family  member who was the same age got pregnant. For whatever reason, people wanted to keep it a secret, probably to spare my feelings, and I did not find out she was having a baby until she was 8 months pregnant and it was very hard to hide.  Lets go over how keeping this a secret could possibly make me feel better. 
1. I definitely would not notice a new baby around, which in turn would not remind me that I cannot have kids. 
2. I was not aware that most other woman could have babies... so keeping this a secret was a REALLY good thing. 
Does anybody else see how silly this sounds?   When you hide stuff like this from a person who has MRKH, it only makes them feel not normal.  Trust me, we know that most other people can have babies, and most of us have come to terms with it.  Please do not stop talking to us like normal women!

The first guy I ever told about MRKH was a douche bag (pardon my french)! It was right out of high school and I finally had the courage to tell someone other than my family about how I was different from most girls (besides the obvious; really sexy, amazing personality, hilarious...).  At first he acted like it didn't bother him, but then he started acting really weird around me.  When I asked what was wrong he couldn't deal with the fact that I didn't have a uterus.  I never really understood that.  How are you not ok with that fact that I don't have a uterus.  The part that really bothered me was he didnt take the time to understand what MRKH really meant. He was very judgmental and close-minded about the whole thing.  Oh well, it just makes me glad I don't have a uterus, that way I don't have to date idiots! 

So...long story short. Don't act weird around me.  Yes, i am strange, but its not because I have MRKH, its just because thats who I am...uterus or no uterus :) 

Uterus Transplant?

Ever since I read this article I cannot stop thinking about it.  You can read the story here, but it basically is talking about how a mother had her uterus removed and gave it to her daughter who has MRKH.  However, the medical team will not consider this a successful transplant until the daughter has given birth to a healthy baby.

I have pretty much planned on adopting since the day I found out about having MRKH.  However, now that I am married I guess someone else has a say in it as well. My viewpoint has always been "everything happens for a reason..." Cheesy I know, but its something that I honestly believe.  There are so many children out there in the world who need and want a loving home, that it doesnt make sense for me to NEED to have biological children. Sure, I think I'm awesome and I think my husband is slightly less awesome than I am, and together we would have really, really awesome babies...but thats not what its about to me.  I dont need my genes passed down from generation to generation.  A parent is someone who raises a child.  I dont care (anymore) that I will not have a child come out of my uterus (plus, I have a hard enough time staying in shape as it is!).  So, the uterus transplant is not for me (although my mother did say she would give me hers if I wanted it).

Back to the uterus transplant...Something I did not know is that segregate mothers illegal in some places.  Even some states in the United States. I think that is crazy!  I also do not understand the reasoning behind it, so for some people the uterus transplant may be a very valuable option.

Side note: I am lucky to have found a man who loves me for me, and who doesnt care that I cannot have his biological child.  I dont feel like this is something all men are ok with.  I feel so lucky every day!  He is 100% supportive, and I could not imagine going through life without him.