Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Finally, A Decision

Jason and I have spent the last 2 years or so exploring options and gather information.  Once I found out that I had working eggs and ovaries, and Jason had working “stuff”, we were pretty sure we were going to give the surrogacy thing a shot.   The problem is I am a little different from most women going through the surrogacy process.  Let me try to explain…

Apparently, a woman’s cycle is the center of the universe when it comes to this stuff… who knew!?!  The problem being, I don’t have a period so the only way they can tell when I am in the middle of my cycle is to do blood work every 3 days.   I can handle blood work, that’s the least of my problems.  The problems for me included:
  1.     .  Driving 45 minutes 3 times a week to get my blood tested.
  2.     My insurance not covering any of it ($275.00 per appointment).
  3.      I began to have little faith in the clinic I was attending. 

I will explain a little more about number 3.  My frustration started when I went into this clinic and they asked me every time “when was the last time you had your period?”  Then I would have to explain the situation AGAIN.  Is it too much to ask to put a little note in your chart, and maybe take 2 seconds to read it before calling me back?  Then, when I was at my last appointment the nurse said something to me that made me question if we were making the right decision. She said “after we figure out when you are on your cycle, you will need to start taking hormones and then we will need to see if we can find your ovaries on the ultrasound, this processes could take a while.”   If you remember from a previous post, they could not find my ovaries on the ultrasound, only on the MRI.  So when I asked her what would happen if I go through all of this and they cannot locate them on the ultrasound, she said “then there is no way we can take your eggs out.”  As soon as she said that I basically stopped listening.  She mentioned something about still being able to use Jason’s “stuff” and use someone else’s eggs, but we had decided a long time ago that if the child wouldn't be both of ours we would look at other options.  We decided there is too much risk in this process.  The hormones would be really hard on my body and the process is VERY, VERY expensive!  Not to mention, if we did all of those things and it didn't work, we just wasted a year or maybe more.  The chances for us were not great.

So….We have decided to give adoption a shot. It will also be expensive, emotional, frustrating at times, and challenging, but I think we are up for it.  There are so many kids out there that need a loving home, and we just want to be able to provide that.  Jason is wonderful and constantly reminds me that we don’t need a biological child to make us parents.   And, although we are both amazing people, have you seen my legs? Or Jason’s patchy beard hair?  Why would we want to pass those genes down?!  J  Wish us luck! 

Last 2 months - With Pictures

A lot has happened in the last 2 months, and I have been horrible about blogging!  I will try to summarize.

  • We had an amazing vacation! We drove from Boston to Georgia and then back up to Boston.  We spent a ton of time driving and creating memories, which is exactly what I was hoping for.  We saw so many cool things I cannot even begin talk about it because I won’t know where to stop!  Awesome time with family and friends! 
  • I went to Arizona a few weeks ago with my friend Haley and we had a blast laying in the sun and doing girly things. 
  • I FINALLY graduated from college!  I am officially a Central Washington University Alumnus! 
  • We spent a weekend on the Oregon coast visiting our friends Natalie and Mike.  They are great hosts, and friends!
  • My grandpa was really sick and in the hospital, but seems to be doing better now.  We are looking forward to celebrating his 88th birthday this weekend.
  • We spent some time working on our property in Randle with some of our great friends!  We brought a tractor out there and built a road to the river. It’s pretty awesome.
  • We have been doing Boot Camp between 4-5 days a week for the last couple months; it kicks our butt, but it so good for us. 
  • Jason is enrolled at Washington State University for Fall quarter. I am super excited for him.
  • We bought a new truck.
  • Jason’s Sperm analysis test came back, and everything was normal.
  • Jason and I had our 3rd wedding anniversary. Time flies when you are in love J  

I think that just about summarizes it all. I am sure I am missing a thing or two…