Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Save The Adoption Tax Credit

Why do I care about the adoption credit so much?  Because since I was 16 years old, I have been involved in a community of women who cannot carry their own children.  And although there are several ways we can still have children, adoption is a popular, yet expensive route.  Many families depend on this tax credit to HELP supplement the cost of adoption, but many children depend on it even more.  If this tax credit goes away, there will be so many families that will not be able to afford to adopt, which will mean more children will be left in our foster care system.  Isn’t it our responsibility to do what’s right for kids, and for their futures?  

When I was 16 years old, I found out I had MRKH.  I was lucky enough to have an amazing doctor who encouraged me to look on the bright side of things, and to look beyond the “why me”.  As soon as I left that doctors appointment, I knew I was put on this earth to make a difference, I left that appointment knowing that I not only wanted to adopt, but that was what I was meant to do.  I consider myself lucky that if this adoption credit goes away, I will still be able to adopt a child. I have an amazing family and support system who will make sure this happens, but not everyone is this lucky.

So, why do I care about the adoption credit so much? I care because I care about kids, I care about their futures and I care about making families complete. 

Saturday, July 15, 2017

I'm In A Magazine!!

It has been forever since I've posted! Do people still blog? I plan on continuing because it is a good way for me to talk about my feelings and hope that people have a better understanding of me and people who are a little different.

So here's the thing...I did an interview with Woman's Health magazine a while ago and got a crazy amount of positive feedback from my friends, family, strangers and other people who have MRKH. Then, a week or so after the article got published in the magazine, my article somehow made the front page of yahoo news! My article was right above some story about Rob  Kardashian!  I had no idea that would happen, and when it did, I felt a nervous feeling in my stomach...I wasn't sure If I was ready for it to hit the freaking home page of  YAHOO NEWS! However, I learned a very important lesson...NEVER read the comments! They were hurtful! I cried. Some made me laugh, but mostly they upset me. I thought I had pretty thick skin, but not this time. But then, I had people reach out to me that didn't know they had MRKH, and been living with this misterous condition. I felt better about things.

So, in case you haven't read the article, here it is!!

Sunday, December 6, 2015

Bucket List

Jason and I would like to take the next 6 months - year to mark things off our “Child-free Life Bucket List.”   So, what kind of things should we do?

We have already done a lot.  I feel like if we had a kid tomorrow, we would be completely satisfied with what we have done in our “child-free” life, but since we have the time, what should we do?  All suggestions welcome!

It's The Small Things

Here is the situation.... I work in a department of about 15 people, and a couple months ago two girls who are about my age announced they were pregnant on the same day.  It was of course a little hard for me because everyone was so excited and I knew that will never be me announcing I am pregnant...And two of them in one day?!?  That can be a little overwhelming for anyone.  BUT, I am genuinely happy for these two girls.  They are both wonderful people and I love them!  A couple days later, another co-worker left this card on my desk.

In case you cannot read what it says, "Dear Jen, I just want you to know how incredible I think you are!  I know it must be very hard to listen to all of the baby talk, yet you seem so genuinely happy for both girls.  Your wonderful demeanor is incredible and I admire you very very much!  P.S Ill still buy you a baby when I can." 

This was probably one of the most thoughtful things that someone has done for me.  To have an outsider understand / sympathize what I go through on a somewhat daily basis was a great feeling. It made my heart happy, so thank you kind co-worker!  And although she probably thought this was a small gesture, it meant everything to me!  

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

Uterus Transplants For Everyone!

If you haven’t already read the article about the uterus transplants coming to the United States, you absolutely should!  Read it here!  Although, I will not personally be contacting the Cleveland Doctors because I already have my heart set on adoption, I am super excited for the MRKH community.  I have never had a strong desire to carry my own child, maybe because I have known about my condition for so long, or maybe because it’s not important to me.  BUT, I do know there are woman out there who would love nothing more than to be able to carry their own children, and I am so thrilled about the future of the uterus transplant.  I would love to be part of this ground breaking medical experiment, but I just don’t think it’s for me.  However, I do know a girl who will be meeting with the Cleveland Doctors, and I cannot wait to hear how it goes for her! 

Monday, August 17, 2015

A Little Help

Jason and I are looking for some help coming up with a website name.  Here is the idea behind the website… 
  • ·         To share with everyone that we are wanting to adopt
  • ·         To share what we are looking for in our future child; age, race, background... (spoiler alert, we are very open in this category)
  • ·         To share a little bit about ourselves
  • ·         To explain what MRKH is and how it has affected our lives
  • ·         And some other stuff, but that is the main idea

We are looking for something fun and unique. I know we have a lot of creative friends, so if you have any ideas please feel free to text, call, email or comment. 

Thanks for your help!

Sunday, April 26, 2015

National Infertility Awareness Week

I am going to start this blog off the way I probably started off most of the papers I wrote in high school... Websters dictionary defines infertility as " not able to reproduce; not able to reproduce children" it goes on to say something about trying to conceive for more than a year (which jason and I have been :)  )  and something else about animals.

Anyway, the purpose of me telling you the definition is because it doesn't say anything about never being able to have children, it doesn't say anything about dying, catching a contagious disease or the end of the world. It simply states that one cannot have children the "traditional" way. So what? Why is this a big deal? Why does no one want to talk about it? It's nothing to be assahamed of (in fact 1 in 10 couples deal with infertility). There are lots of ways to have children, and only one of them is "traditional".

Maybe I'm more ok with it than most because I'm not much of a traditional person anyway. I wore converse on my wedding day, I had two dads walk me down the aisle, I fell in love with a guy who offered to buy me water, I learned to run before I walked, I prefer white sauce on my pizza, I  cheer for the 49ers while living in Seattle... My point is there are  a million ways to do something when you want to do it and one is not more right, or more embarrassing than the other.

Infertility does not mean I can't have a child some day, it just means I will do it differently than most. I may not have a uterus, but I have determination and a great support system and that's all I really need.